Avoiding reality and its consequences

Avoidingreality and its consequences

AvoidingReality and the Consequences of doing so

AynRand quote on the ability of avoiding reality, but not theconsequences of doing so is a statement, which most people can relateto at one point in their personal lives. It is a fact that one isable to avoid the reality, though only on a temporary basis. However,the consequences of doing so cannot be avoided, as one is inevitablyleft to deal with them (Rand, 2010). Reality is the key word inRand’s quote and reality in this particular statement is like adouble edged sword. In this regard, one has the option of avoiding itand dealing with the consequences of doing so, or one may face andsuffer the reality and its consequences altogether. Most peopletypically evade the reality when they are faced with negative eventsor tragedies in their lives. There are many reasons why many peopleusually choose to avoid reality and may include emotions such asquilt, bad or haunting past, fear or simply just choose to avoidreality for the sake of curiosity.

However,it is very important to note that if one indulges in this evasivebehavior, he or she may have to face some repercussions. Some of thecommon types of visible repercussions in doing so are one becomingostracized and hence withdrawn from the rest of the people. This is adangerous and sometimes a fatal consequence, as it leads most peopleto engage in self-destructive behaviors. This is because in mostcases, people who evade their reality for a long time tend to becomedisoriented in that they cannot differentiate what is real from whatis actually false. Avoiding reality offers one a temporary period ofescaping hurt, coping or simply surviving, which is actually thefirst step towards facing that reality. I had to go through apersonal tragedy to experience the consequences of avoiding reality.

WhenI was ten years old, my grandmother passed away unexpectedly and Iwas shaken to my core. We used to hang out together in parks, intheaters and also visited the library to get good books together.

Iloved reading books and I particularly enjoyed listening to herstories that she often told me. I was a really happy child and mygrandmother was one chatty old lady who would never bore anyone for aminute. This had made me spend more time with her than my parents andschoolmates. However, after her death, I became withdrawndisinterested in anything that life had to offer. I particularlyavoided all the favorite spots that I used to visit with her.Anything that at one point made me feel happy and full of life, nowmade me feel intoxicated with anger and hatred. I was angered thatshe had died and left me to continue living a life that we had sharedtogether. I could not dare revisit any places that we used to visitnor did I enjoy having food that we both shared.

Ichose to avoid the reality of my grandmother’s death rather thanface the reality and this led to general poor performance in school.I had no iota of enthusiasm to face a new day and all my childhooddreams seemed to fade away until my parents noticed and I was takento a family therapist. If I had not gone through that medicalintervention, I do not know what kind of person I would become todayif by chance I was lucky to be alive. This personal experience was agreat lesson of learning to cope with reality rather than choosingthe easy way out, which is escapism that eventually leads to fatalresults.

Reference

Rand,Ayn. (2010). ATLASSHRUGGED.New York. Zola Press.