RealSort (from most to least descriptive)
IdealSort (most to least descriptive)
Discrepanciesbetween the real and ideal sort
Thereal self is the perception one gets immediately of themselves. Theideal self, on the other hand, is the image constructed in the mindof a person according to the characteristics they desire to have. Thefeelings of an ideal self, are born out of what society expects of usand what we expect ourselves to live by so that we are more acceptedin the society. The ideal self, tends to be perfect and does not puta compromise on any negative traits, as in the sorts above.Psychologists have examined the relationship and constitution of thereal and ideal self within the overall self-concept people have ofthemselves. Some psychologists regard that the ideal and the realselves are at odds more often than not, and therapists primarily aimat exploring and reconciling the differences that exist between thetwo selves.
Thereis an evidently full separation between the ideal and real sortabove. There is discrimination between the ideal self and the self Iought to be. I view myself as more determined than I am informed, andI clearly value being informed than being determined which also doesnot go as low on my ideal sort. Self-centeredness and wildness appearto be a great struggle in my personality, which I would rather thrustto the bottom of my ideal list and replace them with more desirablecharacter traits like patience, honesty, and cheerfulness. I clearlydon’t admire my domineering self, probably because it costs me myideal social life and I would rather do something about it. The idealsort is what I strive to live by, and I expect it to acquire thetraits, descriptive in that same order.
Howto reduce the discrepancies in the years to come
Theonly way I will narrow the gap between my ideal and real self is byaiming at attaining the ideal self. The ideal self, causes one tohave a personal vision of themselves and it as a result, impactsfeelings, perceptions and behaviors of a person. Having hope for thefuture is one ideal way to deal with the discrepancies as it createsa belief in feasibility which is what I desire for my future. Withoptimism one experiences more positive emotions, and it can drive oneinto becoming a better person. The other means through which I canreduce the discrepancies is by gaining the ability to distinguishcritically between the goals I should engage in and the ones which Ishould disengage in. Some goals become irrelevant as they are unableto amount to success, some are simply misleading and unsolvable. Suchgoals lead to feelings of despair and cause one to have a conflictingideal and real self. By vigorously pursuing the goal I have to becomebetter, I will be able to reduce the discrepancies.
Howthe assessment could be used with a client
Accordingto self-discrepancy theory, discrepancies between the real and actualself, predict emotions related to dejection, for instance, sadness,depression, and disappointment. Emotions related to agitation can aswell be steered. The proximity between the actual-ought andactual-ideal are closely related to anxiety, depression andself-esteem. It is all about the different emotional states that themind of a person can conceive.
Theassessment can be useful when dealing with a client because, from theabove assessment, there is evidence of many discrepancies which cancause emotional turmoil and instability. It is important for a clientto know that when the ideal self becomes overly strong, the mentalhealth can be tampered with. It is healthy, however, to have visionsof an ideal self. A client who is experiencing a mental breakdownbecause of a goal he or she failed to attain must be made aware thatideal selves are at times too farfetched from our real selves. When ahuge discrepancy exists between who we think we should be like andwho we are, a dissonance is experienced. We fail to resonate withinwho we are and as a result, a huge gap forms between our ideal andactual self. The incongruence that results from the difference causesfeelings of demoralization and discouragement in the client as inmost such cases, and the client has only set himself for failure.This is because, the real self never appears to be good enough andattaining the ideal self is simply impossible.
Aclient must be psychologically made to realize thatself-identification can be difficult. Other people often see who oneis before they can see even it. Staying in touch with and trustinghow one feels is very helpful. In some cases, what one thinks, feelsand the emotions they get from time to time can be more accurate whenspeaking to one. They will act as a guide to one`s real self and inturn, help one in identifying their ideal selves.
Aswe have seen, one can derive a lot of principles from the assessmentabove. It might not exactly apply to everyone the same way but fromit, any other person can be able to define his or her ideal selfwithout having to overdo or aiming at what cannot be achieved. It ishealthier to have a very narrow divide between the actual and theideal self. It shows self-belief and results in one having a highself-esteem. Such people are stress free.