Self-ReflectionEssay ‘Peer Counselling’
Self-ReflectionEssay ‘Peer counselling’
Peercounselling impacts significantly the daily life of individuals inthe social, political and spiritual settings. Before an introductionto the subject, peer counselling, I thought to myself how complex itcould be. From my initial understanding, peer counselling was allabout reading an individual’s profile, listening to what isaffecting them, and then giving them some generic advice (Mcleod,2003). Initially, I had an assumption that everybody could become apeer counsellor and you did not really need any special skills ortraining to be one, and I believed that only those who are illmannered or have succumbed to peer pressure required counselling: Iguess I was wrong all that time.
Peercounselling has great impacts on our lives and it influences ourperception of every day occurrences. The latter encompasses social,political and spiritual build-up within a personality through whichinformed choices are made. One would be more interested in thepatients’ stories than counselling and advising them. Thus, thereis need of trying to connect with them or putting oneself in to theirshoes so that one would understand their situation. However, from mycoursework, reference to the publications by As Cox, Taylor, and Haas(1998) posit peer counselling applies to everyone including those whohave suffered trauma owing to a particular event in their lives,emotional damage owing to loss of a dear one, or a bad experience. Inaddition, those with low self-esteem, and even those who require asecond opinion on something before proceeding with it may seekcounselling from their peers (Freeman et al., 2006).
Notably,you would realize that being a peer counsellor should beself-initiative: there are certain traits that you must have ordevelop to be a good peer counsellor. You ought to be a good andactive listener, be able to respond to content, avoid reflectingfeelings, be able to connect with others, and have a helping nature(Cox,Taylor & Haas, 1998).In addition, you should be able to follow up on the patient’sprogress. Simply giving advice may not be enough, as others mayeasily slip back (Kamore & Tiego, 2015).
Ihave always been fascinated with the human psychology, how it works,and the manner in which one manages to processes all forms ofemotions: this is why I decided to become a peer counsellor.Considerately, I have grown to be more mindful of people and how theyfeel rather than looking at them as test subjects (Duck &McMahan, 2011). Equipping myself with basic communication skills andself-control has been important to me, I am able to control myfeelings and respond to the content without being compromised, and Ihave developed close relationships with the patients, as required(FME Team, 2013). Most importantly, I feel a sense of accomplishmentwhen I am able to positively influence another individual’s life.
Lastly,an understanding of the life problems and initiating immediate andwell-informed decisions towards them enable for sanctity in any givensocial setting. Peer counselling is a plus to the society since itsimpacts revolve around solving life problems at individual level torealize their dreams in life. Competency is also established throughthe confidence gained in the peer counselling process hence, it ispossible to realize a fully disciplined and prosperous system.
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